Male chastity seems to work in stages. I should probably ask Mr Kitty for more details on this, but from my perspective it seems to go a bit like this in the guy’s mind:
- “Yay! Getting locked up! Fun! Think of all the sexy things we can do with this game!”
- “Hmm… I can’t wank. I want to wank. Why is Kitty giving me porn to watch when I can’t access my cock?”
- “Ughh… I’m so… horny…. Why did I agree to this? I guess I’ll have to accept it…”
- “Hmm. It’s kinda nice to know that she gets to control my orgasms.”
- “I exist to make her happy. I should be locked up because she wants me to be locked up. I wonder if she’d accept a massage as tribute from her slave?”
Ok, maybe not those exact thoughts, but something similar. The length of each stage seems to vary a little depending on what’s going on in our lives, but they usually follow the same pattern.
As is probably obvious by now, I think the best part is the last stage. I try my best to always keep him in that state, because it’s where we’re both at our happiest. If I unlock him for a long time, say, a few days, he sometimes resets his submission cycle back to the baseline. For him, the baseline is a neutral man who knows that he likes being submissive, but also likes being able to orgasm whenever he wants and can overdo it on occasion. He’s still nice and all, but nowhere nearly as amenable as I’m now used to. He’s also not fully happy with himself and his life when he’s unlocked for long periods, because his natural submission to me makes him feel like there’s something missing.
This leads to a little problem. How can I unlock him for sex without pulling him out of full submission?
Simple! I keep him guessing.
I never tell him when I want to have sex with him, even when I know in advance that I might unlock him before going to bed. I know he always gets his hopes up, which is really cute, but I don’t usually unlock him. When I do, he must remove the icock* as soon as he receives the order. If it takes him too long I might get annoyed and he gets back into his cage (nobody likes being kept waiting right before sex!). So now he’s got it down to an art form. This is why when we’re choosing a new cage, we absolutely need it to be quick to remove. It’s a non-negotiable feature.
I unlocked him in this manner this week.
We keep different sleep schedules, as he works from home across time zones and I have a full time office job. His slave duties include getting into bed every night when I’m ready, and either cuddling or worshipping me until I want to sleep. Then he leaves and starts his work.
So the other night we were in bed and he started caressing my belly. He has a thing for bellies, especially mine. His hands were soon touching me everywhere, gentle enough that I wouldn’t push him away, but still teasing and slightly defiant. Without being ordered to, he began to finger me while kissing my belly, licking around my nipples…
“Here’s the code. Get unlocked.”
“Yes, my kitty.”
Sometimes he succeeds in convincing me that I need to be filled with his cum. Usually, I just need his tongue instead. This time I took the cum option.
He came really quickly, so he had to finish me off anyway. Poor slave. And as soon as I was done, he said “thank you” and got back into his cage.
*icock: what we call chastity devices in this house. It’s so much quicker to say, and it sounds nice to boot.