My life is quickly becoming the busiest it has ever been. As much as it pains me to admit this, sometimes it’s difficult to keep on top of everything. I’m in the middle of a big transition in my career as well as in my personal life. As always, my kittyslave keeps me grounded and (somewhat!) sane, and for that I’m very, very grateful. Thankfully, this is only a short-term issue and I will soon be able to go back to normal.
I like to use sex and orgasms as stress relievers, which makes it somewhat more difficult to keep Mr Kitty in his place. After all, you can’t expect a man to feel like he’s given control to his other half when she keeps asking for sex! I know he could never see me in the same was as he saw previous girlfriends because chastity has been such a fundamental part of our relationship. At the same time, I like to help him remember that within our game his duty is, before anything else, to serve and worship me.
Regardless of how busy we may be, there are some routines that we follow religiously. Their purpose isn’t simply to keep us from getting bored. With the exception of chastity and all it entails, we’re a fairly independent couple with a strong emotional connection, but also a strong need to have our own personal space. Having a slightly structured approach to our relationship during busier times really helps in preventing us from not spending enough time together.
Some of these things I’ve mentioned before on the blog, but I prefer to have them all in the one place:
Bedtime: Mr Kitty always gets into bed with me before I’m ready to fall asleep. This gives us the perfect chance to talk about any worries or issues we might need to share, as well as leaving plenty of scope for spontaneous sexy time. While that’s the end of the day for me, for him it’s usually the beginning of his work ‘day’, so once I’m ready to sleep, he leaves the bedroom and starts work.
Tea: he provides me with a cup of tea in the morning when I wake up (end of workday for him) and when I get home from work. It makes all the difference.
Girl worship: I have quite a high sex drive. If I’m horny, he’ll nearly always be around to help me get off. It’s not a specific requirement (unless I give the order) but it’s nice!
Evening time together: we spend a couple of hours every evening where we usually watch something together. Sometimes it’s a movie, sometimes we just watch TV series. We take a lot of cuddling breaks and on some occasions we end up not watching anything at all, just spending time together enjoying each other’s company. Wine is usually a feature. 😉
Daily chastity checks: just to verify that he’s still locked up. I know that he’s very skilled in picking locks and despite our system, I want him to know that I do care that he’s locked up! Plus I get to tease him while I check that everything is fine. =]
Loving gropes: I love love love to grope my slave. Not in a lecherous old man kind of way, more in a horny girl who likes owning things way. I like how squishy his ass feels in my little hands and how uber soft the skin on his balls is. <3
Visible tools of discipline: my favourite paddle is, of course, still hanging secure on its butt plug. I like to have a few items of that sort visibly lying around the house, so he remembers to be good. You don’t want to visit our house unannounced.
So despite our currently hectic life, it’s really not too bad. A lot of those things naturally steer us towards fun times and prevents getting dangerously close to a completely vanilla relationship, which we wouldn’t find fulfilling — or worse, a dead bedroom situation.