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Ow ow ow

Ow ow ow

Shortly after my last post I began to feel queasy. Soon I had chills, then a high fever. Then I fell asleep and the next few days became a blur in which I can only assume I was being looked after by Mr Kitty, who’s been as supportive and lovely as I could ever wish for. I had the flu. The flu is never fun.

I’m almost back to normal now, with a few niggling pains but that’s to be expected. Naturally, Mr Kitty’s birthweek was cut short and our plans didn’t go as I wanted. Doesn’t matter, I’m picking up where I left off. We had two choices and one demand. Mr Kitty’s choice was to have sex with me using his penis, with no penis sleeves, no desensitising creams, just his hard cock going into me… plus a dildo in his ass that I could play with as he fucked me. My demand was that I wanted to see his embarrassed little self as I tried to insert the biggest butt plug he owned into his ass. I got sick on the day that I was supposed to carry out my demand, so that is still outstanding, but yesterday I was able to do his request.

It went just as I expected. A couple of thrusts, lots of ugnnhhgghggghhh noises coming from him, then some moaning, then it was over. My kitty can’t control himself when his prostate is stimulated. He did make the cutest moans, though. And every time I reached the dildo with my hand to pull it out or push it further into his ass, he became bigger and even harder. Obviously I made him finish me off with his tongue despite the insane amounts of cum he somehow produced. I say “somehow” because it looked like a superhuman amount of cum, but I know what caused it: he was locked up all throughout my illness, with no explicit permission to milk himself. After he finished me off and wiped away the globs of cum he’d smeared everywhere, I locked him back up.

That didn’t last long, however, because he began to get a bit of discomfort. Today I decided to unlock him and check what is wrong. The right side of his penis looks a little darker than usual, as if affected by friction burn. He’s been mostly wearing the same chastity device for years now, with very few issues. It seems strange that he’d start having issues with it now. I can’t see how there would be increased friction either, since he’s the exact same size as before and the cage doesn’t give him room to grow. Maybe a temperature issue? Trapped sweat causing problems? Me having a killer man-eating vagina? All I know is that one side of his cock was tender and a slightly darker colour than the other side. I’ll keep an eye on it but I intend to lock him up as soon as we’re sure it’s ok. I need him locked up and submissive so I can play with that big butt plug of his.

Practical considerations

Practical considerations

I’m not sure how I feel about full-on, 24/7, 365 day chastity. As a concept, it sounds fun in the same way that living in a theme park sounds fun. You can eat all the candy floss in the world! Until you realise that it’s sickly sweet and kind of awful without offsetting it with savoury foods. I know there’s people out there who aim to keep their submissives locked up all the time, but that isn’t for me. I like unlocking Mr Kitty every once in a while because I really love his cock.

I’m going to sound like a bitch, but most times I’ve seen people claiming to keep their subs locked up forever and without any breaks, I just assume they’re lying. Why? Because life still goes on in spite of our kinks, and sometimes there are practical considerations that make chastity devices very inconvenient. I mentioned Mr Kitty’s health issues, but did I mention that I’ve been half dead with a cold for about two weeks? Even then, pausing the use of chastity devices doesn’t only happen when one or both partners are sick, or down, or grieving, or any number of things. If you’ve ever had an ingrown hair grow exactly where the ring of your chastity device hits, you know what I mean. And that is Mr Kitty’s current predicament.

In our case, letting Mr Kitty out of the device is never really a big deal. Some time ago we reached the point where the combination of teasing, cuddling, our respective daily routines and everything else somehow resulted in a very low likelihood that he will wank without permission. He’ll beg to be allowed, but so far he hasn’t slipped in a very long time (it might have happened in the past but if it has, it’s been so long that I can’t remember it). If his willpower isn’t enough he will tell me, though that’s also very rare because he doesn’t really get long enough breaks from the chastity device to have that problem. I like to keep him nicely locked up most of the time unless one of these things happens: sickness, injury, medical checkups and some forms of travel.

Even if I wanted to keep him in his cage for as long as possible, forgoing lovemaking, edging and playing with his cock, I can’t see how I’d be able to achieve that. Our main device is relatively open so everyday cleaning is easy enough, but it’s good to let him out on occasion so he can shave himself better. It’s also sensible to let him out if he has a pimple in an awkward place, or an ingrown hair. Every once in a while he injures himself with the PA while fucking me, and then he has to wear the device without the PA attachment. Realistically, that’s only a step away from being unlocked. I don’t feel guilty for letting him out when it’s necessary.

We’re lucky in that we’ve been doing this for years, so we have sussed out which device fits him well. That alone takes care of the biggest reason most people can’t go very long without getting unlocked. If we were still trying out devices and seeing which one works and which doesn’t, It’s extremely unlikely that I’d be able to keep him locked up for weeks at a time. I feel like those fake stories do a disservice to people who would like to try chastity, but aren’t quite at the point where they would be willing to pay more for a custom device, which may or may not be perfect the first time around.

Male chastity and airport security

Male chastity and airport security

Four flights and three countries.

We went on a mostly unplanned trip to see what is now our definite wedding venue. The problem was that there are no direct flights from here, so we decided to fly to where our families live, and from there to our actual destination. Yes, it’s a very special venue!

With all the airports, we had to consider how we would deal with keeping Mr Kitty in chastity. We’re used to airport security, but it’s not often that we have to go through security together several times in the space of a few days. I normally let Mr Kitty remain unlocked when he goes on his business trips. After all, they are so brief and to the point that he has neither the time nor the desire (or privacy, really) to do anything he shouldn’t be doing. If the trip is any longer than a day at his destination, we always discuss beforehand how to proceed, whether I’ll be there with him or not.

We have two approaches for this:

Going without the device

This doesn’t mean staying unlocked for the whole trip, but going through airport security without the device. The easiest way to do this, for us at least, is to let Mr Kitty keep the device on until he gets to the airport. He carries the tagged key with him. Before security, he goes into the toilet where he takes a picture of the unbroken tag plus the device. Then he breaks the tag and uses the key to unlock himself. Once past security, he puts the device back on, adds a new tag to the key and takes another picture of both the new tag and his locked up bits. This way, he can be securely locked regardless of whether I’m there to check or not. 😉
This is really good for longer travel, as there is no time limit for how long he can stay in the device (just like when he’s at home) and the logistics are almost the same as usual for us, except that he gets to keep the key instead of handing it back to me.

Non-metallic chastity device

A while ago (ok, a few years ago at this stage!) we got a small silicone device for cheap off the internet, which we sometimes use as the device for travelling. It’s not massively practical for anything else, as silicone is usually far too soft for chastity devices and doesn’t offer much security. For travelling though, it’s very comfortable and, most importantly, doesn’t trip off the metal detector when used with a plastic tag instead of a padlock. We haven’t had any experiences with the millimeter wave scanners that were trialled at our local airport, or with being frisked while wearing the device, but I would expect that airport security officers have seen it all by now and wouldn’t consider it some sort of weird security concern.

We’ve never considered using our steel chastity device to go through airport security because I’d rather not have a very anxious Mr Kitty, or a much lengthier time going through security.


This time, I chose the first option. Due to the unplanned nature of the trip we ended up crashing at a family friend’s apartment for a few days, so I didn’t re-lock Mr Kitty until we were back to having more privacy. Chastity devices aren’t very practical when your accommodation is someone’s sitting room!

Orgasm control and the endless sex session

Orgasm control and the endless sex session

Kittyslave orgasms: 1

4 to go.

Yes, I’ve been feeling really fuzzy and horny and everything else lately, which has resulted in a ridiculous amount of sex. I blame it on Mr Kitty’s parents’ absence. I’m also not used to being around Mr Kitty for that many hours, so maybe that had an effect too! He’s been trying his best to sync his sleep pattern with mine while I’m enjoying these glorious days of not doing anything remotely productive, and even though it still feels a little weird, it’s actually quite nice to have some proper free time together. Which, of course, makes me horny and leads to sex. *cough* I mean, love-making…


In all this time he’s been allowed to cum only once. I’m amazed at his ability to hold back these days! It used to not be like that. He never came prematurely or anything, but I couldn’t realistically expect him to go on for a long time without losing quality, getting soft, or finishing. We’ve tried to come up with a reason for him to have improved so much, and the only thing we can think of is the regular edging. I noticed that the time that he came, he continued on with sex without any visible discomfort, and without losing the hard-on at all. I don’t know how I never noticed before. The other times, when he wasn’t allowed to orgasm, we had sex until I was completely sexed out. He definitely enjoyed it, but without struggling against a need to orgasm.

A quick Google search for “edging and premature ejaculation” shows that, apparently, edging to combat premature ejaculation is actually a thing. It makes sense, but I never really thought about it. I guess I also never noticed Mr Kitty’s ability to continue fucking me after he cums because I rarely let him get there, and if I do, my goal is specifically being filled with cum, not so much getting several orgasms.

I unlocked him each time, putting him back in the cage, so his cock was all safe where it belongs. Well, except for a little injury, anyway. Mr Kitty managed to hurt himself with his PA in such a way that the only symptom appeared when he put the chastity device back on. The symptom? A sensation of being in the middle of peeing. He found it disconcerting because he had to keep checking that he was, in fact, still dry. Thinking back, the cause was one slightly-too-forceful thrust with a badly positioned piercing. The solution was avoiding the PA attachment of the chastity device for a day. It’s amazing how quickly a penile injury can heal.

Looking fuckable.
Looking fuckable.

All’s well that ends well.


On the importance of male chastity

On the importance of male chastity

Mr Kitty didn’t feel great on Sunday. The way he put it, he was feeling “a bit meh”. It made me worried because if he couldn’t pinpoint what was wrong, I couldn’t help him fix it. So I thought the best thing I could do was give him some space and let him deal with it, while letting him know that I was still here if he needed me.

Then he asked to be unlocked.

This wasn’t the usual begging, but a very calm argument for why he deserved to be unlocked… because he was horny. (!) Naturally, I wasn’t going to unlock him just so that he could wank, so I ordered him to milk himself fully, and he complied.

Later in the day, he asked again to be unlocked, this time to shave properly. Since he’d milked, I knew it was unlikely that he’d wank. I made him promise that he wouldn’t try anything, and allowed him to get unlocked for shaving. Somehow we ended up talking about why he’d asked twice in one day. He said that he was feeling a bit down that day, and he really wanted to put on some comfy clothes and not have to wear a cage on his cock.

I was taken aback by this. I don’t know why, but it really seemed to have an effect on me. The idea that he didn’t want to wear a chastity device because of a slightly low mood was like a softer version of me not wanting to wear my engagement ring for a similar reason. I told him that. He looked at me, and smiled.

I’d never realised before how much it means to me to control his orgasms, or how much more it means to him that I care about it.

When Mr Kitty got unlocked, we noticed something unexpected: his cage appears to be experiencing some slight superficial corrosion on the bottom. Nothing to worry about, but he’s filed it away for now and I will be keeping an eye on it. Despite being made of 316L grade steel (a low carbon austenitic steel), which has a higher resistance to corrosion in high chloride environments, the surface finish isn’t great. Thing is, considering the environment that a chastity device is used, whether it’s made of 304 steel (your standard stainless steel) or 316/316L is mostly irrelevant unless trips to the beach while locked up are a very frequent occurrence. Surface finish is very relevant. It makes me wonder about the manufacturing processes used by chastity device vendors.

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